Hello readers! Welcome to our blog, Trendphobia. We all come across a point in our lives where we question whether someone is good for us or not. It is very important for our emotional and mental well-being that we occasionally evaluate our relationships with others. It can be extremely hard to let go of a person when you identify the signs of toxicity in a relationship. Since, we get highly attached to people we spend a considerable amount of our lives with, letting go of someone for our own sake feels almost unbearable. Nonetheless, we must recognize the toxic signs in a relationship and do what is best for us.
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Here are 5 signs that you’re in a toxic relationship.
Your partner does not understand privacy
Do you feel your partner is constantly invading your boundaries? Do they never give you any privacy in the relationship? If yes, this may be a sign that you’re in a toxic relationship. The constant need to know what your partner is up to, who they are talking to, and where they’re going stems from a lack of security within oneself. Insecure people will project their insecurities onto you and make you feel like it is you who is at fault. They will often claim that you’re the one who is responsible for their unreasonable and rash behavior. If you start to feel guilty about things you do without any bad intention, it’s time you took a step back and saw if the relationship has started to feel toxic.
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Your partner magnifies their problems over yours
In a healthy relationship, partners often share their problems to assuage stress and anxiety. Conversely, in a toxic relationship, you feel the opposite. You feel like your problems are constantly invalidated. Your partner tends to compare your problems with their problems, disregarding your adversity. They make you feel like your problem is not worth worrying about.
Invalidating someone’s problems and dismissing them as trivial is disrespectful and insensitive. A problem that may seem too insignificant to stress over for one person can be an overriding concern for someone else.
You are never good enough for your partner
One of the biggest signs of a toxic relationship is the feeling of inadequacy. Your efforts are never acknowledged by your partner. No matter what you do or how much you do, you feel like you’re never doing enough. You find yourself thinking “What did I do wrong?”, “Why can’t I ever make them happy?”, “Why do I always mess up?”
Such feelings of inadequacy or feelings of not being “good enough” damage your self-esteem. You should be heedful of such negative self-talk. Someone’s disapproval should not affect your self-worth or how you perceive yourself.
Your partner controls your life
Your decisions are no longer yours. You constantly feel the pressure to ask for their permission before doing anything. Any decision, however minor, that you make without consulting them pushes them over the edge. In a healthy relationship, you never feel this stifling authority by your partner. Rather, you feel supported in the decisions that you make for yourself. Your partner may offer you their advice but you hardly feel an obligation to take it. On the contrary, in a toxic relationship, you’re forced to comply with whatever your partner thinks is best for you.
Your growth is stagnant
A relationship flourishes when people involved in it are always encouraging one another to do better. In healthy relationships, people contribute to the growth of their partners. Be it encouraging them to trust in their abilities or chase their dreams, they never hold each other back. This is how people learn to value and respect their partners. On the other hand, there is hardly any encouragement or support offered in a toxic relationship. A person feels stuck in one place for too long in a such relationship. There is no significant improvement in the quality of their life, nor there is any personal growth. A toxic relationship limits one’s potential and fosters feelings of incompetency.
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Getting out of a relationship can be a very difficult time to deal with. Remember to go easy on yourself. Reach out to your friends and family for comfort. Opening up about your feelings can help minimize the pain that shows up with letting go of someone you love.
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