Hello readers! Welcome to Trendphobia, where we embark on a journey to understand the emotional and psychological requirements of individuals, while delving into the strategies that enable us to meet those needs. In today's blog, we will discuss jealousy, its impact, possible indicators while exploring some effective strategies to deal with jealousy or envy.
The feelings of jealousy or envy have never served anything good to anyone. It gnaws at your deepest insecurities and feeds off of your anger and ego.
Jealousy, though a natural human emotion, is considered as negative. Any emotion that give rise to any kind of emotional, psychological and even physical distress, can be considered as a negative emotion.
Jealousy or envy is the catalyst for all other negative emotions. It can cause the feelings of anger, hate, guilt, frustration, resentment to come to the surface, creating room for misery and unhappiness. Despite the damage it causes, if feelings of jealousy or envy are identified before it gets too late, the impact can be mitigated to some extent.
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First of all, let’s look at some signs that can help recognize jealousy or envy.
Here are 4 signs of jealousy.
1. You take pleasure in their failures
You might show false sympathy towards them from the outside, but on the inside it doesn’t bother you a little. In fact, you feel relieved and happy that they couldn’t get what they wanted. It is a clear sign that you’re jealous of them if you can’t bear seeing them doing better than you in any areas of life.
2. You try to belittle them
If you find yourself taunting someone often or constantly trying to find faults in them, you’re probably jealous of them. Sometimes, you even try to throw insensitive remarks under the guise of “jokes”. You seek amusement in their embarrassment and always try to belittle them in front of others.
3. You are obsessed with them
Do you find yourself spending unhealthy amount of time stalking this person online?
Obsession with someone can be a result of various factors, the most common being infatuation or romantic attraction. However, it’s important to note that pretending to hate someone or publicly dissing them while secretly keeping tabs on their activities can be indicative of augmenting jealousy.
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4. You feel annoyed when someone compliments them
If you feel bad or annoyed when someone comes up to you and starts talking about them in a complimentary manner, it is an indication of jealousy on your part. You may experience thoughts like “I’m sick of people always praising them” or “I wish people stopped talking about him to me.”
These negative emotions of jealousy or envy can grow uncontrollably destructive if not managed timely. It can severely impact your relationships and personal well being which makes it very important to acknowledge these signs of jealousy.
In the next part of this article, we are going to look at some ways in which the feelings of jealousy can be effectively managed.
Here are some effective strategies for managing feelings of jealousy or envy:
1. Pay attention to the triggers and acknowledge the problem
To solve any problem, the first step is to always acknowledge it and consider it as a problem. Observe carefully ‘what it is‘ that causes these negative emotions to emerge when you’re around them. The triggers could be based on insecurity, inferiority complex, sense of competition, etc.
2. Build self-confidence
All the negative emotions that cause you to feel jealous of someone boil down to one thing – lack of confidence. When you lack confidence in your own abilities, it becomes easier to compare yourself to others and feel envious of their achievements. When you see someone effortlessly attain what you strive for can amplify these feelings of jealousy. Therefore, it is important that you work on building self-confidence.
3. Practice gratitude
Jealousy is also a sign of lack of contentment. When you feel a sense of dissatisfaction in your own achievements in life, it can cause you to envy other’s successes. Expressing gratitude every day for the things you already have in life and appreciating the positive aspects of life can shift your mindset towards contentment.
4. Try complimenting them yourself
It might sting a little to compliment them in front of others. Do it internally (in your head) in the beginning and soon you’ll harbor feelings of admiration for them. Your outlook towards them will take a U-turn and the feelings of jealousy will fade away.
5. Choose to take inspiration from them
A person dealing with the feelings of jealousy knows in their heart that they wish to embody a certain quality, achievement, or possession that another person possesses. But their ego wouldn’t let them admit that. They feel hesitant about being perceived as someone who imitates another person.
However, a little change in perspective can solve this problem. Aspiring to embody someone else’s good parts is not imitating them in any way. It is choosing to be inspired by them. As long as we accept ourselves for who we are, we can always take inspiration from others. This is how we grow and become a better person.
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While jealousy or envy is generally considered a negative emotion, it can serve as a valuable tool for self-reflection. In the process of managing these emotions, it is important to understand that each person is unique in their own ways and by embracing our individual qualities, we can ultimately create a sense fulfillment and happiness within ourselves.
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